New Year’s Resolutions for the Whole Family
The New Year is just around the corner, and for the holidays are always a natural time of both reflecting on the year past, and setting goals for the future. While it’s important that we set personal goals to keep up growing and evolving as people, I always encourage my mom-friends to also start thinking about New Year’s resolutions as a family!
Plan your family’s best year yet with resolutions that benefit everyone
The New Year is just around the corner, and the holidays are always a natural time of both reflecting on the year past, and setting goals for the future. While it’s important that we set personal goals to keep up growing and evolving as people, I always encourage my mom-friends to also start thinking about New Year’s resolutions as a family!
Whether it’s putting down the devices for dinner, setting time aside for parents, or expanding your village with a new babysitter or nanny, there are so many simple, fantastic ways to let more love into your family circle. Plus, when you make goals together, you’re more likely to be successful. Use these actionable, and meaningful, New Year’s resolutions for the whole family to start 2020 off right!
Start a Family Gratitude Journal
I love using a gratitude journal to help me reflect and gain perspective on all the goodness in my life, so it’s always one of my go-to suggestions for my mom-friends when they’re looking for ways to bond as a family. Creating a gratitude journal is a fun and super simple way to not only think about what you’re thankful for, but it’s also totally customizable and can become a family tradition! All you need is a notebook and something to write with. The idea is for each family member to provide examples of things they’re grateful for, and for the family to discuss and interact. The note-taker will write down who said what, and in the end, you’ll have a lovely list of things that makes your family happy, while your children learn valuable life lessons.
Spend More Technology-Free Time Together
You all know how I feel about the importance of maintaining a balance between screen time and real-world time. In the digital age, it’s foolish to think that we can get kids to totally avoid tech devices, and as adults, we can probably be better about being more present and less focused on our phones, too. A goal every family should have in 2020 is to be more in the moment, and less on the internet. Designate a “phone basket” to be used during meals, or choose activities like going to the zoo instead of watching a movie. Lead by example in showing that the devices can wait.
Develop (And Stick To) A Family Chore/Responsibility Chart
Chore charts are always made with the best of intentions, but they can be so hard to stick to. One way to give it the extra push it needs is to add in the adults in the family—that means more accountability for everyone, and you get to show your kids by example what it means to follow-through on a task. Plus, kids love having ownership over a project and working side-by-side with you. As a family, track the chores (let the little ones give the parents their stars!) and work together to come up with the rewards. Choose things you can enjoy as a family, like a night out for ice cream or an afternoon of mini-golf.
Give Back To Your Local Community More
We already know how important your village is, and your community is a huge part of that. Set a goal of volunteering once a month in different capacities, and sit down as a family to come with ideas on what to do. Try to include everyone’s interests if possible—for example, if one child loves animals, consider spending an hour volunteering at a local animal shelter. Mix it up with different ways to give back—hold a bake sale fundraiser for a cause, serve at a soup kitchen or donate clothes and toys. As a bonus, you could process the experience together as a family in your shared gratitude journal!
Schedule Parent Date Nights
Although this is a goal that’s geared toward the parents, it’s still one that benefits the entire family. I love using this analogy to explain why date nights are important: It’s like using an oxygen mask on an airplane. The instructions are for the adult to put on their mask first, and then help those around them. Why? Because you need to take care of yourself before you can effectively take care of others! It’s so easy to be plagued by mom guilt, but I am here to say that there is no shame whatsoever in taking time for you and your spouse. Self-care isn’t selfish. When parents feel connected and in-touch, families thrive. Don’t be afraid to hire a babysitter or a nanny to take over for a few hours while you take time for yourself and your relationship.
Define Your Family Values
If your family was a business, what would its mission and values be? What drives it, and what does it believe in? Figuring out the answers to these questions are the same for a family—what are the morals, values, ethics and standards your family hopes to live by? Parents can use their values help to shape their child into the person they hope their child will become. Family values are like the frame of your house: the stronger the foundation, the better equipped to withstand the test of time. Pass down constructive lessons you’ve learned throughout your life, as well as define new family values together.
December 26, 2019